Unwrapping the idea of "birth recovery" for the holidays December 09 2015, 0 Comments

Like anyone else, I love good cocktail party conversation. However, I also like to cut to the chase and talk about things that are REAL! Especially if the conversation involves birth, parenting, public schools, mom hacks, etc. I enjoy learning and listening to others who are rich with experience and further along in their parenting journey than I am.

At the same time, I like to offer up my postpartum/mothering challenges and offer support and resources to others. In this way, the holidays can be a perfect time to connect with your relatives and birth is a great conversation piece! Although you may come from a community where there is a plethora of birth recovery professionals and services, others may not be so fortunate.

Soon-to-be-moms may not realize that they should also have a plan B (cesarean birth?) when writing their birth plan, or they may not realize that a postpartum doula is essential for multiples. Postpartum doulas are also invaluable when it comes to sleepless infants and swaddling tips.


So the next time you're wandering around the living room or sitting around the holiday table, lean in. Cut to the chase and offer up some non-judgmental, authentic advice, support, and resources to your cousin who may not even know that waiting to cut the cord just 3-5 minutes after birth has tremendous benefits to baby.

Here are five tips I love to share to help women advocate for themselves, feel empowered, and navigate those first few months:


  • Ask if they know about diastasis recti and if they are considering abdominal binding postpartum.
  • If they have not yet had their baby, encourage them to get a prescription for PT (to help with separated abdominals or pelvic floor issues) before they leave the care of their provider- just in case!
  • Encourage them to breathe, stretch, or use a foam roller in those first six weeks postpartum- they will feel so much better!
  • Share your REAL experiences and struggles- not to freak them out, but as a way to connect.
  • Encourage them to prioritize self-care and consider getting bodywork.

These tips are not too "out there," even for your cousin from another planet! Connecting with other women and raising awareness around birth and the 4th trimester is a gift to each other, just waiting to be unwrapped for the holidays.

Wendy Foster is the creator of mamalates and the master trainer for all mamalates licensing programs. An internationally certified Pilates instructor, pre/post fitness specialist, and birth recovery expert, Wendy has been teaching Pilates since 1999 and practicing yoga for nearly two decades. Contact her at wendy@mamalates.com or visit mamalates.com.